So right from the beginning, I’m just going to come out and be honest with you guys, I am still learning how to do this but I guess that is the best thing about this blog, the fact we get to share our experiences and learn from each other.
As someone who solely relied on the support of my family and friends for a long time, starting university was different for me because I felt like I lost the sense of permanence that came with constantly having family around. This made me really worried and sometimes upset because I began to doubt how much the people I loved really cared about me, but then I had to realize that people have a lot of shit going on in their lives that makes it hard for them to constantly be in communication with you, and truthfully, that’s fine too. I’ve learnt on this journey that the only person who can constantly be with you is the spirit of God.
“… I will ask the Father to give you another Helper, to be with you always…” John 14:15-16
When I discovered this, I realized I had to ask God to teach me how to to step up and be there for myself sometimes and in no time I started learning how to :
◦ Go to the cinema to see a movie alone and enjoy my own company.
Lesson: Not everyone is free when you are and they might not want to do exactly what you want at that point in time.
◦ Talking myself out of my negative thoughts.
◦ Motivating myself to get out of bed and get things done.
If you’re in my house around 7am in the morning, you may or may not hear me reminding myself that the day is mine and I have to show up and show out.
◦ Developing on whatever little habits and hobbies that give me joy.
Sometimes it’s working on my blog and sharing cool things with you all, other times it’s learning how to do my own nails from YouTube videos.
◦ Getting a grip on my social media consumption and actually stepping back into reality to read a book!!
I don’t know if you have started this journey or this might prompt you to be more self reliant, But I’m assuring you that despite how great your loved ones are it’s important to learn how to be there for yourself.
Thank you so much for reading loves❤️
I’ll be looking forward to hearing little areas that you’re going to show up and take care of yourself by yourself this week.
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